October 5 – Proverbs 12:16-25
Main Focus: Words
The fool’s perspective of being “right in his own eyes” is illustrated here in his speech, which is contrasted with that of the wise. The section is framed by reference to the actions of the prudent and the fool. The fool quickly spills forth the vexation or displeasure in his heart, where the prudent ignores the intended effect of an insult because his heart conceals knowledge of the bad effects of such speech; so he shrugs the insult off. The section reinforces the teaching of Proverbs that a person’s speech comes out from the heart and that the LORD is the one who knows both and finds them accordingly either detestable or a delight.
Proverbs 12:19 tells us that some people’s normal speech pattern is to constantly accuse, belittle, manipulate, mock, insult, or condemn, and their rash words hurt other people and feel like sword thrusts. This is opposite of the way of wisdom taught in Proverbs, for the tongue of the wise brings healing
Ephesians 4:29 says followers of Jesus are to stop evil speech, substituting talk that is good for building up and giving grace. “Corrupting”speech is like “bad” (rotten) fruit. To “give grace” in speaking means to benefit others rather than corrupt them through what is said.
Discussion questions
– According to the wisdom of the Scriptures, the words that come out of our mouths should be Spirit controlled words for building up and rescuing others. How have someone’s words hurt you in the past, and what was the impact?
– How have someone’s words encouraged or uplifted you in the past, and what was the impact? Who was it, and what did they say?
– Why is it sometimes difficult to use our words to encourage rather than tear down?
– Are you approachable or defensive in your communication? How do your words reveal your attitude?
– How can you support someone this week with loving and truthful words?
– In what situations or around what people do you need to guard your mouth? How can we pray for one another?